http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/09/19/ ... u-to-know/
Relationships don’t create happiness, they reflect it. Happiness is an inside job. Relationships are simply the mirrors of your happiness; they reflect it and help you celebrate it.
They are mirrors because they are a perfect reflection of your thoughts and beliefs.
To reflect means to encourage you when you feel weak and challenge you when you feel strong, thereby returning you to your center.
And to celebrate is to share the natural ease and joy of living from your center – of living in the now with clarity.
What others say and do is often based entirely on their own self-reflection.
When you have people speaking to you who are angry and upset, and you nevertheless remain very present and continue to treat them with kindness and respect, you place yourself in a position of great power. You become a means for the situation to be graciously diffused and healed.
A Zen teacher once said, “When somebody backs themselves into a corner, look the other way until they get themselves out; and then act as though it never happened.”
Allowing people to save face in this way, and not reminding them of what they already know is not their most intelligent behavior, is an act of great kindness.
This is possible when we realize that people behave in such ways because they are in a place of great suffering. People react to their own thoughts and feelings and their behavior often has nothing directly to do with you.
Not every relationship is meant to last forever.
Some people aren’t meant to stay in your life.
Some people are just passing through to bring you something – perhaps a lesson you need to learn, or memory that makes you smile years later.
When the time comes, it’s okay to let go and move on with your life.